When it comes to relationships, each one is different and there is a different approach towards how you can become good at it. In order to move out of a relationship rut, you first need to know that you are in one. There are certain indications that you are in a rut and there are ways in which you can bring back the spark. You need to accept certain things and move on and allow your relationship to grow.
. You have said your “I love you-s” but do not know where you go from there.
You love each other but you do not know where you go from there. You are still not ready to plunge into marriage as you might be too young, unsettled in your job and profession, etc. You love each other but you do not know how to celebrate that. You know each other really well and that has ended all the intrigue, curiosity and butterflies in the stomach.
When it comes to being stuck in this rut, you can overcome it by bringing back the passion that you both have for each other. Start by going out on unconventional dates. You can do something for your partner and celebrate the love that you feel for each other. Enjoy all the aspects that come with having someone to fall back on when you are in need. Enjoy the intimacy and familiarity with increased enthusiasm. Do something new together. It will help you come closer and still have fun.
. You have been dating for some time now and you do enjoy each other’s company. But, you do not see a future together because of certain differences.
When you have been dating for some time and you get to know the other person well, there are chances that you might fall in love. But, after the initial excitement fades and you start thinking about practical aspects, you start noticing certain deal breakers. May be he/she is too young; May be they are in a job that requires constant travelling or have family commitments that can be burdening, May be he/she is fun to be with but is not serious when it comes to settling down, etc.
You can overcome this thing by having a real heart to heart talk. Try bringing up the topic and have a serious discussion about where your relationship stands. Discuss all aspects and if you decide that you have a chance of working it out, then all is well and good. But, if you do not stand a chance of a future together, it is best that you move on and find solace elsewhere.
. You used to be great at sharing and being honest. But, now it seems that you have grown apart.
In the early days, there were sparks flying everywhere. You had a hard time getting any work done. But, as reality hits and work and other commitments take up your time, you find it difficult to be with each other. You start thinking that you do love the person but you do not know them anymore like you used to. Long distance relationships are more prone to this type of issue. Here you feel like you are single even though you are in a relationship. Everything seems mundane and boring and even your partner’s talk seems to drag on.
You can overcome this by rekindling the romance. Watch chick flicks together. Look at old photographs together. Visit the places that you love. Go for the things that you both love to do. Really talk about what is going on in your life right now.
Even though there might be ruts that you might get stuck in, a little effort and some nudges will get you back on track in no time. Be determined to make it work and give it your hundred percent. Be frank about your expectations. Accept certain things and move on if there is a need.